Author : Dr Kem Thompson
You know that your feelings (the way you feel about things)
determine your behaviour, and your behaviour determines how well
you do in life. Or not.But what determines your feelings? Are you at the mercy of
your emotions? Is there a way for you to actually change, control
or otherwise affect the way you feel at any given time?Yes there is, and you're about to find out how.Your feelings are determined by your attitudes. What is an
'attitude'? Your attitude is the way you see things, your
perspective, your take on things. It's the way you think about
things. And it determines the way you feel about those things.The good news is that you have the power to CHOOSE your attitude
at any given time. When some trivial occurence happens that
threatens to annoy you, you could either have the attitude of
'this makes me really mad' and feel and act accordingly, OR
you could CHOOSE to have the attitude of 'this isn't worth my
getting worked up over', and leave it at that.Which attitude is healthier?In medical practice, we come across many illnesses that are
said to be induced by 'stress'. But what really is 'stress'?
Here's a fact: nothing is stressful in itself; it's the way you
interprete things that determines whether you suffer from 'stress'
or not.That is why two people can experience the same event in different
ways. One person is not bothered by the event, the other person is
worried sick by the same event. Each response is a personal
choice, a personal interpretation of events.The scary thing is that when you (choose to) perceive an event as
'stressful', you send messages to your brain which releases
chemicals that cause your immunity to get depressed. In addition,
perceived 'stress' causes your body to release harmful by-products
of metabolism called 'free radicals' which destroy your body
tissues. That's one reason that 'stress' causes actual serious physical
disease.And yet it's all down to your chosen attitude.You have enormous power within you, since you have the ability to
choose your attitude and consequent feelings.When working with clients, I focus on attitudes, thoughts, beliefs
and such things because they the *root* causes of every conceivable
outwardly visible outcome. If I can get you thinking right about
every area of your life, you can rest assured that the results you
desire will follow just as surely as night follows day.What's your attitude towards your job? Do you feel insignificant
and undervalued? How does that make you behave at work? Is that
behaviour serving or sabotabing you?What's your attitude towards your marriage or other relationship(s)?
What are your thoughts towards the other party? How do these thoughts
lead you to behave? If you wish to improve things in your relationships,
start by improving your attitude towards the people you relate to.What's your attitude towards yourself? Do you feel inferior
or superior to others? Do you think you're worthy of the finer
things in life? The way you 'see' yourself determines the way you
feel about yourself - so called self-esteem or self concept. Do you
let others dictate how you see yourself? Realize now that the way
you see yourself comes across in the way you behave, and people see
you and treat you the way you see yourself.Ask yourself similar questions about every aspect of your life, and
come up with honest answers. Write these down. Then go through your
answers, pick out the attitudes that sabotage your efforts and desires
in every area. When you've done that, write down the exact opposite
of those thoughts and CHOOSE to adopt the new statements as your new
attitudes to life.Practise your new attitudes consistently (remember your new year
resolution - to do what you say you'll do, when you say you'll do it)
and you will be amazed at the results. Do it and see for yourself.Here's a neat quote from Hugh Downs for you to think about:"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances,
but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes."Dr Kem Thompson is a Success Coach, Speaker, Author.
She can help you achieve better results at work, business,
play, spiritual or in your social life.For resources you can use today to create a better life,
sign up for her FREE ezine (and get a thank-you gift)-
'Days of Success' by submitting the form at http://www.successeminars.com/
Keyword : Success, belief, God, joy, confidence, love, giving, receiving, peace, health, wealth,abundance
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